I’m not a graphomaniac; I’d give anything for a neurosis that productive. But like most every other soul with a WordPress, I do fetishize writing, dabble in creative writing, daydream about actually finishing my novel someday, et ceterea ad nauseum.
Right before our first child was born, the idea naturally occurred to keep a journal of sorts about her early years. Regular entries about the milestones and minutiae of her development, what she’d been up to, who she’d seen and been spending time with, the totes adorbs things she’d said and done… et cetera ad nauseum, redux.
The idea was to document, plainly, what was going on with her in those early years. It’s far from fine writing, much of it ungrammatical or rushed or repetitive; crossings out abound. There are a few entries which came out as half-assed attempts at more elevated prose, while I figured out what these books should be, what they were trying to do: those entries are the fucking worst.
First child’s gonna first child; first child parent’s gonna… you get the idea. That first book was filled with just too many entries, too much inconsequentiality. TMI on the lunch menu at preschool.
In case it’s not clear, this isn’t some Parenting Guru showboating move, no you simply *must* keep a detailed life path journal for baby if you want them to grow up grounded and centred. This was something I could do ostensibly for the kids that was in the wheelhouse (yeah i said it) of my limitations and obsessions.
Our second child arrived, and we started a book for him. My partner writes in the books too, and loves to do it, though less often since she’s not a writing fetishist. She writes in Swedish, in a tiny, subtle, sometimes barely legible hand. My own English script is a bastardized italic, ungainly and poorly coordinated, also sometimes barely legible.
When we see relatives, I force the books on them too, try to get missives in from the grandparents, the aunt and uncles, the cousins now and again. As our kids start to write, they’ve scribbled their name or a few words in there too; before that there’s the occasional toddler’s scribble-scrawl-drawing across a page or two. Our first kid, now seven, wants to write in her own book sometime.
YES! A message to her future self!
We’re on the second book for Kid A; near the end of the first for Kid the Second; Kid #3 just turned three, and… we’ve not got so far in his book, TBH. There’s the birth entry, a little more delayed than the birth entries for the first two, but updates are muuuuch less frequent, because like I say, he’s number 3, and Life continues it’s relentless pythonesque constriction of all the precious, precious, spare time. Third child parent’s gonna third child parent.
Maybe we’ll stop at a couple of books each. There seems less point once they hit the age where more detailed memories will stick. We’ll give them the books when they’re older, aware that at eighteen they’ll probably shrug, hopeful that as they get older they’ll appreciate having this trove of detail about their early years, set down at the time rather than filtered through unreliable memory. Very occasionally, we flick through them ourselves, checking when Kid X started walking or lost a tooth.
Anyhow. As I say, the writing in these books is not great writing. Entries are often rushed; garbled; aimless; repetitive; confused; incorrect, probably; boring. Did I mention repetitive?
It’s easy to write in their books. It’s casual, unconsidered, dashed off. But there’s more worth to this bad writing than anything I’ll ever blog, set down in a short story, or toss into the ever-hungry maw of the unfinished novel. Et cetera, ad nauseam.